One of the major things I have been trying to do in my life is removing people from my life. Not killing them (although I wish I could) but more like disconnecting myself from them. There are certain types of people who simply I cannot tolerate. Most of which are people with negative outlook in basically anything.
I have come across whiners in my life. Usually, I'd try to identify if their intention in starting a conversation with me was to find a solution or a resolution or simple to unload. Once I can identify that, I would then check myself if I am in the right mindset to receive such conversations. Sometimes, if I am not on a stable psychological stage, it's just gonna annoy me or annoy them or both.......basically resulting to a very horrible outcome.
Intention is key. Some people try to approach me with an already established intention. Some people just want validation from other people......which I do not understand why. I don't believe in living up to expectations other than your own. Just make yourself happy and then, we can work on helping others.
Anywho, I do know of some people who simply cannot stand knowing that you are progressing and making developments in your life regardless in whatever aspect it may be. People with bad intentions. People who do not like other people being happy. First and foremost, do NOT be those people. It is quite apparent that these people are usually not happy themselves. At least, that's usually my initial thought on them. Then, they like to ask you how you are doing just to see if you are not having a good time like them.
People like these usually carry on conversations only and if ONLY you reply with a problem you are facing. If you simply state what you are doing and that it is mostly progress, they'd stop the conversation right there because they know you are in a better state of mind and place. They cannot accept it because they are not there. They usually never are.
Every single thing you do is always negative to them. You cannot let their problems bother you. Instead, you should make them realise that their problem is an actual problem and that they need to get their shit together and make a move on their lives.
So yeah, I have been basically ghosting people in my life and it doesn't bother me anymore. Not like it used to. I think it's coz I like making myself happy and elevated in spirits rather than being bothered by problems that aren't even mine to begin with. It's a really good practise ^_^
