finding neverland

I've always thought of living my life as a kid.Didn't think I'd have to come to a point where I'd have to make serious decisions.Some decisions come with serious consequences.Sometimes,it affects other people's lives.

I used think negatively on having kids due to numerous reasons which would eventually come down to financial and economical factors.Only because,I was born and raised here in the city.Everything about the city requires money.

Shu and I have always gone through the pros and cons of having kids later in our lives.Most of the time,we plan not to have any coz we're too selfish.We are so obsessed and absorbed with ourselves and eachother.We forget what our lives would be like 20-30 years down the road later on. (if we'd ever live that long)

I don't like thinking that far ahead.It's just not me.I love taking life as it comes.I realized that life in the city has side effects on how I think.Maybe it would be alright to have a kid to play tag or hide and seek with.I keep forgetting that I'm not going to stay young forever.

an interesting debate occured in class today

The issue was the fertility rate in the world.One of the factors contributing to this is the age of marriage (for women,of course).A guy in class commented that women are demanding when it comes to men.Therefore,men would need time to meet the demands of these women before being able to marry them.

Dr. Rohaiza said that it is not a matter of women being demanding but simply men not being able to catch up with the achievement of women today.She said that she recently interviewed some female engineers from Petronas who were married to men of a slightly lower professional status.

One of the women said that it is sort of a problem.For example,a woman married to a military officer said that her kid had some mathematical problem to solve and he went to his dad for help.His dad couldn't solve it so he went to his mum.His mother solved it in a split second.Later on,her son asked her why she could solve the maths problem and his dad failed to do it.She had to make up some silly excuse like his dad was busy and tired of work.

Hawadah then argued that would it be ok for guys to carry on living with wives whose earnings are 5 digits in a month whereas his pay is so much less than that.Her arguement was more on the men's ego.I don't suppose it is a real problem for most people today but when it comes to socializing,I guess it does have an effect.Especially if you have kids like the woman engineer above.

Anywho,the arguement went on and on and eventually turned into a battle of the sexes.Strange but it happens.We're in the 21st century.People from different backgrounds have different ways to view things.Some guys want their wives to stay at home the whole time.Some guys wouldn't mind having working wives.I'd say,if you can bring in a whole lot more income for you home,why not?Just let your wife work.The more cash the better,ain't it?

ringworm infected

Kecik is now a grown cat and he's out and about looking for a mate.I have no idea where he goes to these days but the last time he went out,he must have picked up some fungal infection from some other cat out there.We had to take him to the vet coz we weren't so sure how bad the infection is.It's not contagious to us homosapiens but other felines could easily get infected.We're not exactly quarantining the little dude yet but we have our eyes on that lil fler.Just making sure he takes his meds and gets the cream applied on him twice a day and stuff.Once this treatment is over,HE NEEDS A BATH!He stinks!I could be lying down on the floor next to him (just a few centimeters away) and I could smell his stinky-ness!EEEEUW!

got this in my email today

Jika kamu memancing ikan……
Setelah ikan itu terlekat di mata kail……
Hendaklah kamu mengambil ikan itu……
Janganlah sesekali kamu LEPASKAN ia semula kedalam air begitu sahaja…….
Kerana ia akan SAKIT oleh kerana bisanya……
Ketajaman mata kail kamu & mungkin ia akan MENDERITA selagi ia masih hidup……

Begitulah juga……
Setelah kamu memberi banyak PENGHARAPAN kepada seseorang ……
Setelah ia mulai MENYAYANGI kamu……
Hendaklah kamu MENJAGA hatinya……
Janganlah sesekali kamu terus MENINGGALKANNYA begitu saja……
Kerana dia akan TERLUKA oleh kenangan bersamamu……
dan mungkin TIDAK dapat MELUPAKAN segalanya selagi dia masih mengingati kamu……
Jika kamu MENADAH air biarlah berpada……
Jangan terlalu berharap pada takungannya dan menganggap ia begitu teguh……
Cukuplah sekadar untuk KEPERLUANMU sahaja……
Kerana apabila ia mulai RETAK….
tidak sukar untuk kamu menampal dan memperbaikinya semula……
Dan bukannya terus dibuang begitu sahaja……

Begitulah juga……
Jika kamu sedang memiliki seseorang….
TERIMALAH dia seadanya……
Janganlah kamu terlalu mengaguminya dan mengganggapkan dia begitu istimewa……
Anggaplah dia manusia biasa……
Kerana apabila dia melakukan KESILAPAN….
tidaklah sukar untuk kamu MEMAAFKANNYA dan MEMBOLEHKAN hubungan kamu akan TERUS hingga ke akhir hayat
Dan bukannya MENGHUKUMNYA dan MENINGGALKAN dia begitu sahaja kerana kamu merasa terlalu kecewa dengan sikapnya
Lalu semuanya akan menjadi TERHENTI begitu sahaja……
Jika kamu MEMILIKI sepinggan nasi……
Yang kamu pasti baik untuk diri kamu……
Yang MENGENYANGKAN dan BERKHASIAT……
Mengapa kamu berlengah lagi?
Cuba mencari makanan yang lain……
Kerana terlalu ingin mengejar KELAZATAN……
Kelak, nasi itu akan BASI sendiri dan kamu sudah tidak boleh menikmatinya lagi……
Kamu akan MENYESAL……

Begitulah juga……
Jika kamu telah bertemu dengan seorang INSAN……
Yang kamu pasti boleh membawa KEBAIKAN kepada dirimu…… MENYAYANGIMU….MENGASIHIMU….dan MENCINTAIMU….
Mengapa kamu berlengah lagi?
Cuba MEMBANDINGKANNYA dengan yang lain……
Terlalu mengejar KESEMPURNAAN……
Kelak, dia akan BERJAUH HATI dan kamu akan KEHILANGANNYA apabila dia menjadi milik orang lain……
Kamu juga yg akan MENYESAL dan tidak ada gunanya lagi……
Oleh itu janganlah kita terlalu mengejar KESEMPURNAAN kerana ia bukanlah faktor utama KEBAHAGIAAN yang sempurna, sedangkan jika kita boleh memaafkan KESILAPAN orang yang kita sayang dan akur dengan KELEMAHANNYA sebagai manusia biasa serta BERSYUKUR dengan apa yang kita sudah MILIKI…kita akan BAHAGIA, BAHAGIA dan terus BAHAGIA…itu lebih BERMAKNA!

“Begitu hidup ini tiada yang abadi yg patah Kan tumbuh yang hilang Kan berganti, namun yang berganti tidak mungkin sama seperti yang hilang”

welcome to the jungle

Hahahaha!Who would have thought I have a thing for marketing V(^_^)V

I have extraordinary classmates.One girl in my class is a qualified swimming instructor.She told us how she made it that far and it is not easy!She's amazing!

My other classmate teaches primary level kids tuition.Personal tuition.
The cool thing about these sort of work is that it is totally tax free!

The girl who teaches kids to swim can get up to about MYR4000 in a month!And giving tuition classes and getting paid by the hour really rawks!

The final project for this class requires the entire class to work together.Duh!There are only 6 of us.Our final presentation was sorta funny coz it turns out that everyone came up with different presentations and ideas which actually compliments one another.So it sorta made it look like we were all presenting as a team.

You want sales?I'll give you just that!

got up super early yesterday morning

Only to find out that my right eye had been conteminated by the anti-bacterial gel I put the night before.I text Shu telling him that my eye was hurting then I ran downstairs to find my mum.She told me to go to the clinic.I text my classmate that I wasn't coming in for class and went to the clinic with Shu and my mum.My eye looked like I was allergic to something according to the doctor.So she gave me an MC for 2 days.Still,I'm not a fan of not doing anything at all in a day.Had brakfast with mum and Shu and then we went home.

Was trying to get my Communications homework done.Headed out to Ikano and IKEA for a bit in the afternoon after getting Shu's notes from a classmate in Shah Alam.Had lunch in Subang.We saw this aweful looking Subaru with a whole lot of welded pipes all over the car and the color was.......eeeeuw!It totally looked like it was spray painted with a bunch of bad color combination :/

Was on the phone with my sister last night (after I was done looking for Kecik all over the neighbourhood) She said she misses home.She went to see a Bosnian survivor from the war testifying what was done to him.She said she saw and looked into the eyes of the killers of innocent people and thought how the hell do these people walk around looking like they had done nothing wrong.

She said she misses Malaysian food BIG TIME!

strange vegetation

Shu and I were worried sick about Kecik the whole of last night.He didn't come home and as much as I know how he never answer my calls,I went around outside looking for him last night.Finally,Shu told me to just come inside.We prayed for him to come home.He did.This morning.Shu said he looked like he got into a fight.I have no idea where he went but I'm just glad that he's home.We have to take him over to the vet and check on those strange markings on the back of his neck :/ Hello,Dr. Clement!

hahahaha!

kisah kakak yang kerja di rumah Aunty Tipah

Shu and I were sent out to make a delivery for my mum.The things were for Aunty Tipah who wasn't at home at the time of the delivery.Her maid was home alone.We didn't know that she had just started work there.Being the goofies that we are,Shu and I turned up at the front gate in our Little Devil hats at about 9pm.The maid peeked out from the window upstairs then opened the front door telling us that the tuan rumah wasn't in.I told her that we were just delivering stuff.She went inside and the house alarm went off.Shu and I took off our hats thinking that it might have been the reason she got scared.The alarm went off again.Shortly after that,she finally came out and took the stuffs from us over the gate.

After we got back into the car,I told Shu that we should have tried scaring her off with scary tales of maids being left alone at home in the night :p

after a long drive on the highway.......

We are finally home.Safe and sound.

Shu,Azim and I went to send Qarim back to his campus in Perak.We left at about 4pm.Got there within about 1 and a half hours time.Our drive home took us HOURS!At one point,we were only going at about 40km per hour!Azim went crazy for a bit.He was singing out loud Psychosocial.......growling out the lyrics is more like it.

Haha!Another funny thing to add to our silly story would be us bringing home the toll ticket.Here's what actually happened.We've already taken a ticket when we exited Gopeng.Then,halfway through the heavy traffic and all,Shu decided to top up the touch 'n' go card at a petrol station since there were so many cars on the road forgetting that we already have a ticket.We got to the Damansara toll and Shu was wondering why the screen said the card is not recognized.No amount was deducted either.I quickly checked the overhead sun screen and took out the toll ticket.All of us looked at eachother for a bit and then laughed our heads off.When we got home,the first thing I showed my folks was the toll ticket.

just because you are a budak kecik doesn't mean you can get anything you want!

Bengang la pulak!
Shu and I were at the park late in the afternoon today.We were happily talking over things on a seesaw.Suddenly,out of nowhere,came a lady asking if we could move coz the little girl she was babysitting wanted to play on it.Without any hesitance at all,Shu and I smiled and let them have the seesaw (only because we were in a good mood).
Then,as we were walking getting closer to home,Shu realized that he has a cousin who is just as spoiled as that little girl in the park.That totally changed our mood thinking if we should just go back to the park and tell the lady and the little girl to take a hike coz we were there first!

Anywho,Shu and I were driving around KL earlier in the day.At first,we were just killing time.We ended up at Bukit Aman,parking somewhere near a Space Agency.WE HAVE A SPACE AGENCY!We also discovered that we have a Police Museum!It's near the Lake Garden Bird Park.There was also a Planetarium and a Butterfly Garden........

Eventually,we got thirsty.While driving around the closed shop lots in KL,we decided to just head over to Mutiara Damansara since I was supposed to get my mum a birthday present anyways.We had some drinks at OutPost over a game of Shrek Junior Monopoly.Stopped by at Skin Food to get my mum something and headed home.

*Me thinks me likey Skin Food products* ^_^

My uncle and my aunt dropped by for my mum's birthday bash.For some strange reason,just as Aunty Intan and Farah arrived,they had this secret meeting which Shu and I were NOT invited to join regarding OUR WEDDING!Hah!Wait till they hear the plans Shu and I have in mind which we told Farah!She thinks that my dad wouldn't mind the idea ;)

While on the seesaw,Shu and I have decided to make the reception a PRIVATE reception.It would make things less complicated ^_^

P.S.: I still tidak puas hati with that little girl at the park!

paying for other people's expenses......again.......

The latest pre-marital procedure includes having a pre-marital course certificate AND a HIV blood test report.My folks never had to do any of those things back in those days.

Here's a rough calculation of the expenses BEFORE getting married:-
Pre-Marital course MYR80/person
Pre-Marital package blood test report MYR160(women) & MYR150(men)

And then,comes the mas kahwin.It differs from state to state.Here in KL,the rate is MYR80++

On top of all those,culture includes a hantaran<---honestly,I am not so sure of what the amount is nor do I know what exactly it is for.

Anywho,other expenses would depend on what and how the wedding is going to be conducted.As for where I am right now,I don't really have a say.Everytime I suggest something,I'd either get turned down or simply ignored :/

movie carnival 2009@Sunway Pyramid

After class this morning,Shu and I headed over to Sunway Pyramid coz I was curious about the movie carnival thingy.We passed by the concourse but then,we decided to have brunch and then walked around.Our brunch was way past lunch time but way too early for tea.We ended up talking and talking and laughing.Finally,we decided to walk around.
We passed by the DDR machine.Some kids were at it.Some other kids were at the Japanese drums.Looking at those kiddies hitting them drums real hard,Shu said they reminded him of us when we first tried out that thing.Both of us just doing what ever only coz we cannot read kanji.Hahaha!
We headed over to the concourse and checked out the booths and displays.We had to stop by the Cinema Online booth coz I spotted a cardboard stand-up of the lion mascot wearing a starfleet academy uniform with the line "LIVE LONG AND PROSPER" written under it.It was so chomel!The previous stand-up too was interesting.It was a picture of the same lion all dressed up like the Joker with the line "WHY SO SERIOUS?" written under it.It turned out that those were prints on t-shirts and stickers sold at the booth.Shu got the Joker lion t-shirt and I got the Spock.We got a car sticker and a Narnia collector's folder thingy.We also got 2 free tickets for any movies that will be released in the next coming 6 months.
Oh.....if you ever go over to the Drag Me To Hell movie display site,DO NOT attempt to sniff the stupid coffin props there coz what ever they did to make the thing look and smell like a dead body,it worked!

kisah mak cik gigih di jeruk stand

Hahahahaaaa!!!!!!
Shu and I were at a kopitiam and nearby was a stall selling jeruk and assam.Shu was in the middle of saying something then out of nowhere,I blurted out "amboi.....gigih benor mak cik tuh membeli jeruk......." Shu's reaction was blank at first,then he burst out laughing.Our conversation was far from jeruks.

I am super exhausted.The so called sleepy and the tired ones got home early today and we actually agreed to play badminton with my dad at the park.Our warm up session today was a quick basketball match with Azim and Rashid.Then,we were just playing around at the badminton court when my dad arrived.Ash arrived and we started a game or two.Later on,Rashid and Azim came by to play a game (replacing Shu and I)

We continued playing and because we started playing early today,we played till our feet could bear us no more.I was tired a wee bit more coz I kept dancing the LBP monkey dance every now and again.It's really fun.Now,Shu and Rashid can do it too ^_^ All you gotta do is shake you booty!

pathlab

Shu was calling the directory all morning trying to get a number to any labs in the area where we can get our blood test done.Finally,we ended up in Damansara Utama.It was a strange but funny experience coz neither of us have ever been to a lab like that and every other person who walked in are old.It's a good thing that the place has several different packages to choose from.Lucky for us,they have a pre-marital package.Shu kept checking that the lab girl didn't get our blood mixed up coz we wouldn't wanna end up with complications at the very last minute.

On our way out,Shu caught a car passing by with both passengers in it staring at us.After a while,he realized it was Ayie and his wife.I thought it was one of Shu's friends.

Had brunch in Bangi.Shu met up with his brother for a bit then we headed to Shu's place to change the locks and stuff coz of the recent incident that took place there.Also,no one will be living there until the new semester begins.I'm just a wee bit paranoid about leaving the house the way it was knowing that there are valuable things there still.

Oh yeah,today is Shu's mum's birthday.My mum called her up this morning just to wish her.It surprised her.It surprised both Shu and I as well.We didn't think my mum was really gonna do it.Well,I didn't.

dauthus

The thing about death is that you only go through it once in life and you will definitely have to go through it.Sooner or later.I fear it.A lot.

At the pre-marital course we attended,one of the speaker's opening speech was about how forgetful we are as mortal men.We keep talking about the past like it was just yesterday when in fact,it has come to past.The more we talk about it,the longer it has left us.What we fail to realize is that every second that passes by leads us closer to the one thing we don't wanna talk about.Death.

His examples were simple.When we talk about the past we'd usually say stuff like "baru je semalam........." but when we talk about death,the usual template would be something along the lines of "nanti,bila saya dah mati......".

Death is commonly related to old age.If and unless you are terribly ill,you may be related to death just as much.Do we forget that we can die anytime?I always think of my chances of surviving the world tomorrow.Sometimes,I tend to think that the carelessness of others might lead me to my doom.Actually,that is an erronous thing to do.We can still die no matter how careful or how healthy we are.

While that gives me endless sleepless nights.I'd resort to thinking of surviving or going on having to lose the people I love.I know for sure that it is one thing if I were to go.Even so,I don't know if I am strong enough to face it myself.Let alone being the one left behind.

almost crashed case

Yesterday,Shu accidentally dropped his backpack in men's.His laptop was in it.It dropped to the tiled floor.The edge of the lower left part of his computer cracked.We thought it was done for.When we got home in the evening,I told him to try switching it on with the power adaptors.If that failed,we would either have to get it checked at a computer store and extract or save everything form the hard disk or.........he'd have to get a new computer.

Lucky for him,his laptop worked perfectly.

Eversince we played Dance Dance Revolution over at Sunway Pyramid the other day,it sorta became an addiction.Well......for someone whose never played such a game (such as myself),I won the first time around (eventhough it was only the beginner's level).We tried playing it again today and thanks to Shu,we ended up playing the expert's level.He won but we both failed the level so we didn't get a second round :/

Recently,we discovered a restaurant over in Bangi called Restoran Amir.We passed by it one day by accident coz it was near Bangi Kopitiam.Then,we decided to give it a try.Now,that is THE place to have brunch or lunch for us since my classes are in the mornings and Shu's classes begins at 2pm.The food served there are just simple nasi campur and a bunch of malay/malaysian dishes but they taste awesome and the price is pretty cheap.Definitely cheaper than TTDI and for that sort of food,I have switched from eating nasi kandar to eating proper rice dishes now ^_^

The only sport we've been playing at these days would be badminton.From the first day we started playing which was just Shu and I fooling around in the alley near my house,my dad got us to join him to play proper games over at the park with nets and stuff.I started off as someone who completely sucked at the game.Now,I play so much better.I still don't get the rules of the game so I'd end up at the wrong side of the court most of the time.

Oh yeah,we stopped by at the hospital in Serdang on our way home just to see if we could get our HIV blood test done there.It turns out that only refered cases are treated there.If and unless we come in as an emergency case,they don't have an outpatient clinic there.This would mean that we'd have to go back to plan A which was to go over to UH over in PJ.

Next week,we'll have to check with JAWI regarding the forms Shu and I have to fill-up before the day of nikah.Since Shu's I.C. states that he was born in Terengganu.Therefore,he'll have to fill up some extra forms if we're going to get married here in KL.Our check list of things to do is neverending.......hopefully,we'll be able to clear it out soon ;)

randomness

Shu made me a light up picture frame from his cellphone box.I took out an entire stash of random bits and pieces of junks I've been collecting and we started making things.I experimented a stand-up piece with one of the pictures I printed some weeks ago.

Anywho,this whole randomness began the night after the pre-marriage course ended.I helped Shu out with the soldering iron and stuff a bit and then I ran off after Kecik.Chased him around with the camera.Kecik,being the snoopy that he is,was sticking his nose into the things Shu and I left lying around the floor.Then,he started playing with the pencils and cutters.

Kecik lost his collar last night.We thought someone took it off but Kak Yah said he came home without it.When he came home this morning,the collar was back on and no one in the house took it off or put it back on.Curiouser and curiouser.Of all the cats that are living in our house,Kecik is the only one whose lost the bell on his collar.Then,he lost the bell Shu bought for him.We got him a new bell this morning.Lets just see how long this one will last.

kantoi muka selamba

answering the 'why' questions

Shu and I got up early on Sunday morning.We both didn't get much sleep the night before.I was still recovering from fever.He just had trouble falling asleep.We got ready and headed over to Al-Nidaa.We were the first couple to arrive.It was freezing cold.My fingers actually turned blue.

Anywho,everyone arrived in time and the first speaker began giving us a lecture on "Akhlak".Basically,how husbands and wives should behave towards eachother as well as everyone else around them as well.It seems as though it is something everyone knows.Common sense and stuff.Well,not everyone remembers where to draw the line at times.

After a 30-minute break,a female Chief Matron walked in and began talking about health issues.HIV test is a requirement in the procedure of getting married.Shu and I shall be heading over to UH sometime within this week for that.We might even get a whole lot of other tests done as well while we're at it.

We had lunch and went home for Zuhur prayers.Came back at 2pm and the next speaker was a guy who came in to talk about marital procedures.What we'll need on the day of nikah.Documents and stuff.He also talked about the things that could break the marriage like things we sometimes do unintentionally or things that we do without realizing that it's wrong.

The last speaker was awesome.He gave us a talk on dealing with stress and conflicts in a marriage.He first told us that man and woman are different.Physically,mentally and spiritually.The whole thing about the ratio of 1:9 and 9:1 in man and woman is not literally what we are always told.Women work on an emotional level more than functioning on a logical level whereas men functions more on a logical basis.He made a lot of sense and his explanations were very clear.So clear that it made us realize what we are by throwing in random circumstances and asking us what our reactions would be.I'll post it in a different entry later.

Overall,I think Shu and I learned a lot form the course.We also managed to refresh our memories at some point and we were reminded of our rights and responsibilities.It's been a tiring weekend but at least we got it done.Next up,University Hospital!I am so afraid if my blood would come out in a different color (other than red) :/